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I am a firm believer that being is the foundation of doing. And the seasons of autumn and winter are exactly the time of the year where we are naturally called to just slow down and be, to focus on how we want to live and simply sitting with ourselves and our wisdom. When we allow ourselves to just be, the energy of doing will rise and flow from us naturally. Just as we seen in the earth as she moves through her cycles. Thank you so much for this cozy, calm, important reminder! xx

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I agree Liz; this is definitely the season for trying to slow down and let ourselves be. I love the image of the energy of doing rising and flowing naturally. 🥰 xx

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A wonderful read! I'm going to put some thought into a 'to be' list, it's a really good idea! I love a list, and definitely thrive from a 'to do' list so I hope a 'to be' list will have the same outcome 🙂

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Let me know what you come up with! I love a list too but was finding I was stressing myself out by all the things to be done so decided to focus on how I show up to do the things instead. It definitely helps.

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Wonderful, I loved this and as I have just entered the last year of my 30s similar thoughts have arisen. Like Georgina said, being content is important to me too. I want to be happy, ready for and content with each phase of my life, not wishing I was at another stage but living fully and deeply embedded in my life as it is xx

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This, absolutely. Embracing the phase we’re in is so important. I am terrible for rushing through things, not really paying attention to what’s going on around me and then finding that I’ve moved on but missed out on the experience. I’m hope the last year of your 30s is a wonderful, transitional stage! xx

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Yes, it is very easily done. I feel as though I have become better at immersing myself in my stage in recent years but yes want to know that I am fully experiencing everything and not just skimming through life! xx

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Oh my goodness, I love this so much. The fact that you have turned this into a 'to-be' list is the best thing ever. Here's to the almost 40 crew, it's time to be! xx

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Thank you for the inspiration! 🥰 xx

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You’re very welcome, it makes me very happy ❤️ xx

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After reading your article I realise that I have a 'to be' list, I just never thought of it as such. I retired last December with plans of things I wanted to do or places to go when the weather improved and the days got longer. I didn't do them for all sorts of reasons but partly because I didn't want to (although I kept telling myself I should). I like the quieter, simpler life I have now, balancing the things I need to do with the things I enjoy.

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Not doing things you don’t want to do is one of the best gifts you can give yourself! So many times we do things from obligation and then wonder why we are exhausted or the thing lacks enjoyment. Congratulations on your retirement - I hope you can spend it primarily doing exactly what you want to do! 😁

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The main 'to be' for me would be to be content.

To be content with:

- where I actually am with my life

- my finances and not wanting or needing more

- my size, shape and age

As I get older I look back over my life and realise I was never content. The world kept telling me I should want more. It's good to have expectations and aspirations but not to the extent of never feeling enough. I suspect it's even worse now for young people with online lifestyles looking so amazing. So yes, contentment with my lot is my 'to be'.

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This really resonates with me. Contentment is the key to happiness (in my opinion) and you’re right, I definitely don’t think multiple carefully curated social media feeds are helpful in allowing us to feel content with what we have. As you say, aspiration is good but constantly striving for more is exhausting and leads to dissatisfaction overall. Being able to look at what you have and be content with your lot is a wonderful skill to have (and something I am still working on!)

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